Sunday, May 14, 2023

The Magic in Loving Yourself

This week we have some wonderful and timely advice from Magenta Wise in her new book, The Magic in Loving Yourself (just click the title for a link to the colour and ebook, or this link for the black and white version ).

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What did you just say?

“Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.”
- Lisa M Hayes

I am - ” are mighty powerful words. They affirm whatever you say next. “I am poor” or “I am rich. “I am ill” or “I am healthy” Decide which you’d rather be and have and say that and only that. Those two little words create who you are and what you have in life. Be ultra-conscious when you use them. 

Always watch your words. Never underestimate their power. Words are more powerful than you know. What if your words are a command to the field of all possibility?

They are.

“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” 
John 1:1–3

This powerful sentence doesn’t have to be taken in a Christian context, there are several instances that acknowledge the creative power of the voice. Their sound is a vibration, they enter into the atmosphere and have an effect. The human voice is the most potent instrument we have, which is why singers are so celebrated and loved. The voice has the ability to move emotions, capture hearts, excite, uplift and soothe. 
Someone once told me that in Ancient Egypt there were some, perhaps they were Priestesses and Priests, who spoke only on the inward breath, lest their words have unwanted results. I don’t know how he knew this, but it could be true. Many cultures around the world  have their own 4creation myths, including the Hopi and Navaho Native American peoples. Spider Woman, Spider Grandmother has the power to create life, She is credited with the emergence of life on earth, She sang the Creation Song and brought the first two living beings to life. They were twins, Poqanghoya and Palongawhoya, whom She sent to the poles of the earth to balance out the planet.
She helps humans by teaching them survival skills, such as planting and growing crops, advising you sing to them to encourage growth. It’s said that playing classical music does it too, and I talk to my veggie plants and tell them they’re my babies, how beautiful they are and how much I love them. And then I eat them. I feel bad that I betray them in such a cruel way, but at least they don’t have a face, a pulse and a mother in quite the same way as animals, birds and fish. 
Spider Woman also teaches the Navajos the art of weaving. Before weavers sit down at the loom, they often rub their hands in spiderwebs to absorb the wisdom and skill of Spider Woman.

“Words form the thread on which we string our experiences.”
 - Aldous Huxley

The spider is a magical creature, it’s fascinating to watch her weave her web, whose threads are incredibly strong. She represents the Spider Goddess, because it is She who weaves life into being on the great web of life, connecting all together and also the great web of the Universe, linking us to it and to all eternity. She is also the symbol of the ability to create something from one’s own body, just as a spider makes her strands. 
In Ancient Greece the Fates, or Moirai, named Clotho Lachesis and Atropos, were a group of three weaving Goddesses who assign individual destinies to humans at birth. These are our true reason for being here, but we forget because we forget to love ourselves and so we forget we are connected to the Great Heart Web. We can regain the power of weaving our way to our higher purpose through loving and evolving ourselves. 
Singing and speaking are tools, we can use them to build ourselves up. If you don’t sing in the presence of others, do you sing in the shower? Get in there and sing your soul! I have the perfect song for you, there are versions of it on YouTube.  ♥ “With a Song in my Heart.” ♥

 Abracadabra is used mainly by stage magicians these days, but it’s a magical word. Its origin is unknown, but according to the Oxford English Dictionary, its first known use is in the second century works of Serenus Sammonicus, a Roman tutor and writer. There are studies that associate the word from phrases in Hebrew that mean “I will create as I speak”, or Aramaic “I create like the word.” The use of the voice, and the words chosen, have been linked to creation for a long time.
In the Wicca, ‘So mote it be’, meaning ‘so must it be’, is said at the end of a positive invocation to seal in the magic, and in using affirmations, there’s ‘It is done, it is done, it is done’ and ‘So it is.’ Remember, all affirmations must be said in the present or as if they’ve already happened.

“If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts.
We can always replace negative with positive.
- Betty Eadie 

It's important to be aware of what you’re saying to yourself because you’re absorbing it, and the Universe is listening. Over time, negative words sink into your subconscious which soaks them up, reacts to them as if they are orders, and performs accordingly. You will get exactly what you asked for. What a dismal thought eh? - but you’ll have worked out the same is true of positive words.

Vocal viruses are unconscious uses of words that seep into the mass consciousness; like ‘right’, ‘okay’, ‘wicked’, ‘cool’, ‘absolutely’ etc. If you were to point out that someone uses a word or phrase repeatedly, they’d deny it, but if you keep doing it, they’ll see it for themselves, and sooner or later catch themselves at it. They’ll be annoyed with themselves, but before long will be more selective in what they say. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with these words, only that the user is unconscious of using them, and we should be conscious if we want our words to be effective. 
Another vocal virus is ‘vocal fry’, which seems to be increasing. It’s a way of speaking in which the voice is quite low-pitched with a characteristic rough or creaking sound, usually at the end of sentences. It can come over as insecure, or an attempt to sound sexy, or can sound like having a sore throat, and both men and women do it, but so far mainly women. Some people don’t mind the sound of it, others find it madly irritating. I’ve heard people use it all the way through an entire sentence and it sounds like a croaky old door. If this is how people want to speak it’s fine, just don’t let it be an unconsciously caught habit. 

The other one is when the voice goes up? at the end of every sentence? like it’s a question? Fine, it might be natural to Aussies? but when used by others it’s a bit odd? I feel I should respond as if I have an answer?

How you say it also counts, people can pick up inflections and hidden meanings, so say only good things with your heart behind them. If you wouldn’t say something to a loved one, don’t say it to yourself.

‘Never complain and never explain.’ Keep your dignity, don’t give more energy to problems by complaining about them. The more you moan about physical and mental health, the worse they’ll get. If you’re asked how you are, don’t say ‘Fine’, instead say ‘I feel so much better thank you’, or ‘I feel great’, or ‘Everything’s resolving itself.’ Test yourself. Ask yourself or have someone else ask you how you are. Bring yourself into your body and mind and answer it by saying, “I feel awful, this pain is getting worse”, or “I’m fed up, when can I get a break?” How does it feel in your body, and what thoughts come up? Now do the opposite, answer with positive statements and compare how it feels. You’ll notice the difference.

Some phrases are pure nonsense, others could shorten your life if you keep saying them, so stop saying daft stuff like:

I’m dead on my feet.
It’s to die for.
Drop dead gorgeous.
I’m ready to collapse.
This will be the death of me.
This is killing me.
This will send me to an early grave.
I’m starving to death.
It’s a nightmare.
It leaves me cold.
It’s a pain in the neck.
It gives me a headache.
It makes me sick.
It’s driving me mad.
I’m so unlucky.
My heart is smashed into smithereens.
My head will explode any minute.
I could eat a horse.
I’m starving to death.
I’d kill for a beer.
I hate . . . .whatever
etc. etc.  . . .
Stop lying to yourself. Don’t tell yourself you’re stupid, unworthy, unloveable, too fat, too thin and all the other nonsense you might be telling yourself. People used to say, ‘I’ll wash your mouth out with soap and water.’ That sounds nasty, so catch yourself at these damaging habits and censor them out of your mouth, they taste just as bad. Away with that twaddle!!

Speak your love. Speak only loving, positive words. If you’re in a triggering situation and can’t, then say nothing.

Stop apologising all the time if you haven’t done anything wrong.

Don’t partake in nasty conversations about other people, you never know what they’re going through. People who snipe about others behind their backs will do the same to you. Seek those who share your interests instead.

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
Eleanor Roosevelt 

Take control of your ability to speak things into existence.
Speak the truth. Purify your throat chakra and speak your own magical truth.

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